Receiving and Giving

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How much we receive is limited to how much we allow ourselves to let in? Could you be unconsciously blocking yourself from receiving that promotion? The Love, wealth and joy you desire will stick with me for today's episode where I highlight some of the ways we close ourselves off to what we truly desire, and how we can open ourselves up to be powerful manifestation magnets.

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The following was recorded in front of a live studio audience at the studio 21 podcast cafe. This is the United Podcast Network.

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Welcome to rat race reboot. I'm your host, Laura Noel. And as a certified coach and former 27 year military leader, each week, I provide bite sized mindset pivots that will help you reset your mind reawaken your spirit and regain your control. Hello, everyone, and welcome we are into the new year. As you can see, I'm still festive. I'm going to go with it for a while. So welcome back, everybody. Last month in all of our episodes, we talked about self reflection, we talked about celebrating the wins, releasing the old baggage, baggage and forgiveness. You know, if you don't do the work of letting go, there's no room to accept what's new and awesome for you in 2022 and beyond. So I'm really excited about this topic today, talking about giving and receiving or receiving and giving however you want to look at it. But in repetition here is the key. And I always say you know you don't attract what you want, you attract who you are by virtue of the thoughts that you repetitively get involved in emotionally involved in each and every day. So you can ask, you could wish you can hope for all the things you want. But it's not going to happen, it's not going to manifest for you until you release the old and you open yourself up to receiving and I want to help you do that, you know, there's so many different ways that we can even close ourselves off to receiving without even realizing that we're doing it. So you know, this is the work that I help my clients and lead my clients through finding their blockages to receiving and overcoming them. So they can be wide open, and be receptive to the ideas, the inspirations, the opportunities, the creativity that's already inside of them. And it just opens them up to a whole new world of possibilities. So here's a few points of reflection for you. And I really want you to think about this. And just reflect on some instances when other people are trying to give to you. And you're not really receiving on an unconscious level. And this is a knee jerk reaction that a lot of us can have. And I know this applied to me, but think about how do you feel when somebody pays you a compliment? I can remember, I was coaching at a personal development seminar with a friend of mine. And she had said, you know, Oh, I like your sunglasses. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I got them at Target. They were $1 I can't believe. And we were laughing because we were noticing how she did the same thing. Whenever somebody would pay her a compliment. She would deflect it, and then talk about the thing. Oh, yeah, this whole thing. I've had it for years, you know, thank you, is a full sentence. Thank you receiving opening your heart and just receiving that compliment for what it is right? But it can be so hard to do that sometimes. And there's a multitude of reasons for me. It was just feeling unworthy or feeling uncomfortable or feeling embarrassed. It's a lot of those things for a lot of the people I talk with. Another one is how do you respond when somebody tries to do something kind for you? Like, open the door? Oh, I got it. I know that's something that I would say I'm an independent woman and I was you know, in the military for so long and I didn't want somebody you know, other men opening the door for me because I was like, I can do it myself. You know, but it's just a kindness. It's just accept the kindness and just say thank you. That's it. Thank you is a complete sentence. We don't have to do it alone. We can accept the kindness of others. So think about how do you respond when people offer to do something nice for you. It's just as simple as holding the door open for you. The other thing is what happens when you walk into a store and a a sales associate says, Hi, welcome to the store, can I help you find anything? No, thanks, just looking.

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I've said that a number of times. And you know what's interesting, you know, I do a lot of networking on different platforms, LinkedIn, and Facebook, Instagram. And I am interested in getting to know the people I'm potentially getting connected with. And so I might say something nice to them or notice something on their profile. And one day I did this, and this was a gentleman who was a regional sales leader. So he was leading a team, and he's like, I'm not interested in anything, you have to say or purchase anything, you have to sell it. I'm like, Whoa, I'm not selling anything. We just connected. And I just want to get to know the people, I want to have quality connections. And if there's any way that I can help you, or if you want to be introduced to somebody in my network, you just asked, that's all you have to do. And what was interesting is this person is a regional sales director, he's in sales, and he's scared afraid of being sold, right? Nobody wants to be sold. But you know, you've got to receive, you got to open up and receive the connections and, and the support and the help you don't know where that's going to lead you. And sometimes, it's a knee jerk reaction. Like I said, that just stops us in our tracks. And the interesting thing is, you know, how we receive in one way automatically is really how we receive most of the time, and I'm talking about receiving good things. I'm not talking about receiving negativity or insults. That's a whole nother episode that we'll get into later. But how we receive and open our hearts and open ourselves up to receiving we pretty much do that all the time. It's it's an unconscious habit. So and I also can remember somebody in my family when I would give them a gift a no, no, you shouldn't have no, it's too much you should. And that's really insulting. And they're doing it because they don't want you to go out of your way, or they feel embarrassed or they don't feel worthy. But it's actually it feels hurtful, being on the receiving end of that when somebody doesn't even receive your kindness. So like I said, there's a lot of reasons why we do that. Sometimes it's guilt. I know, I felt guilty sometimes for receiving. It's about feelings of not feeling worthy enough, or like, we don't want to take more than our share. We don't want to take, you know, a bigger piece of the pie than we should. I love Abraham Hicks said, have you seen the pie, the pie is infinite. We can't take more than our share. We're not taking we're receiving and just as we receive everyone else can receive as well. And when we receive, we're opening ourselves up to giving in a beautiful way. I learned this the hard way. Gosh, back in the early 2000s When I realized, and it was a punch in the gut when I refuse to receive the kindness and goodwill of somebody else. I'm actually taking from them. I'm not being a giver, I'm being a taker. Hmm. Sit on that one for a minute. That's, that's pretty deep. That was a big aha for me. Because when somebody is being kind to you, or generous or just paying you a compliment, and you're like, oh, no, that's not true. You're you're basically you're not consciously doing this, but you're telling them you don't know what you're talking about. You're not valuing their comp, their comments, you're not valuing what they see in you, their perception of you. That's the truth. That's their truth. So take it in, accept it, you know, love yourself enough to be with and get over the discomfort of, you know, taking on that that good, get over the discomfort because in receiving, you are giving it you know, it reminds me of when I went with the unstoppable foundation back in 2019 to visit some of the villages in Kenya. And I've been a donor for a couple of years and a small group of us went to visit five of the villages where our funding had made an impact. And we were providing clean water nutrition, agricultural training, job training, medical care and education for girls. And when we went to the first village

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I was we were all greeted by people from that village. And they were singing and chanting and jumping and taking our hands and whisking us off into their ability and they were singing and just loving on us and just showing the most beautiful level of gratitude ever. And at first, it felt a little uncomfortable, I felt a little embarrassed. And I started to look at the founder of the unstoppable foundation. She's had this organization for a number of years, and she's had tremendous impact in the region. And I remember her saying something to the effect of, you know, it feels uncomfortable, it feels a little awkward when people are, are showing and showering you with that much love and gratitude, it feels a little uncomfortable, but they're giving you know, you have to overcome that and just accept the love. And I'm telling you when I went there, and I just opened my heart and just received that outpouring of gratitude and love and appreciation. It enabled me to give more than I ever thought would be imaginable. And up until that point, I had given gosh, probably like $25,000 over the course of two years. And I wanted to multiply my giving. And once my heart was open, and I was receiving, I had another idea, I want to do more, I want to fund a two year college program. And that was to the tune of 200. And over $200,000, I had no idea how I was going to do it. But I said yes. And because my heart was so open to receiving, I was able to get it funded in six months. And I was open and connected to the people around me when I had an idea or a flash of inspiration to contact somebody or call them, they would always say oh my gosh, this is the perfect timing, I was looking for an opportunity like this, I was in receive mode. And that's what I mean is you know, all of last month, we were talking about letting go releasing the old baggage so that we have room and space to receive creating space for yourself so that you can do more and have the impact and even greater impact than you could have ever imagined. Well, that starts with receiving, you know, you've got to open your heart, you've got to be open to receiving in all ways. And it starts with the little things. So what I challenge you to do this week is just be aware of how you receive, it's not to beat yourself up. But in the moment when you're receiving course correct when somebody pays you a compliment and you have the urge to go, oh, this whole thing. Oh, I got it you're deflecting stop yourself. And if you catch yourself going down that path, say oh, can I have a do over? Thank you. That, practice that. And over time, that will be who you become. And I want you to affirm to yourself that you are worthy of receiving affirm that to yourself, each and every day. And when you're in a situation like that when somebody is about to hold the door open for you or something. Think to yourself, I'm worthy of receiving and say thank you. In that moment, when you're receiving, you're also giving at the same time. And giving is a wonderful thing. It's a cycle that perpetuates itself, that giving and receiving, you know, I always talk about money. Money is meant to be in circulation, there's an ebb and flow to it, some goes in goes out, and it comes back in. It's the same with giving and receiving it's an energy. It's an energy exchange. So allow you can't block yourself out off from receiving in these little ways. And then expect to receive the goal, the ideas, the inspiration, the opportunities, it doesn't work that way. You've got to open yourself up in all ways. So let's put this into practice. As I always end every episode, we're going to get connected with our vision. Our goal, I want you to just take a deep breath in through your nose and exhale fully and completely through your mouth and just relax. Take another deep inhale exhaling fully and completely can take one more deep inhale through your nose and exhale and I want you to think to yourself, I am worthy of receiving. I am worthy of receiving all the good that is coming to me

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and I want you to Think about some of the times when you typically deflect those compliments or that help and I want you to have a little do over in your mind if you could go back in time which you can in your mind and in your imagination have a do over if you could set the tone for just allowing yourself to receive what would that situation look like? And if you felt comfortable receiving what would that feel like?

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Imagine just relax into it how would opening your heart open you up to all of the good that's waiting for you. That's also looking for you

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even when you open yourself up to receiving your great achievements and enjoying them, what would that feel like? Would you feel more joy in those accomplishments, more fulfillment? More gratitude and how would you show up with the people around you might not even inspire you to give a little bit more.

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And welcome back. So give that a try this week and I would love to hear from you and and see what you notice and see how things have shifted for you. If you got value out of today's episode, I want you to go to rat race reboot.com And subscribe to our YouTube channel. Follow us on whatever platform you listen to your podcasts on. And most importantly, we're going to get into some really wonderful concepts as we're entering into the new year. To get you rock solid and grounded and on the way toward accomplishing those goals. I want you to go to rat race reboot.com and download the Quantum Leap handbook. It's like 20 pages, a workbook that I'm going to be guiding you through over the next three episodes to help you create a strategic plan, get in alignment with your vision and make it happen. So join us next week where we get into the Quantum Leap handbook. But until then, thanks for joining us remember, everything is created twice. First in your mind and imagination. And then in physical form. We'll see you next week.

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